There's an "ex" there for a reason...

I used to be one of those girls that "stayed friends" with her exes. I also used to dye my hair jet black, drunk dance at Amateur Night and think Nickleback was "hard rock." Then I grew up.

The fact is that there IS an ex there for a reason. Even if you had one of those storybook endings where you both looked into each other's eyes, said, "I'm not in love with you," then laughed and hugged and skipped off into the night; at one time you had strong feelings for this person and/or they had strong feelings for you. These feelings may have been naive and irrational and you think you could never feel for this person in that way again, but they WERE there. Feelings don't dissapear; feelings change. And they keep changing. This is why the divorce rate is over 50% and happens to be my personal bread 'n butter.

If you had feelings for a person once before, or vice versa, it is entirely possible that one or both of you could rehash these emotions. It is also possible that one of you will reminisce of your time together and want to rekindle the damaged affair. In all honesty, there are a million hypotheticals that could happen and they're all bad.  Unless, of course, you're living out some romantic comedy... and everyone is acting. There is no benefit to remaining friends with someone who was, and is no longer, a staple in your life. Unless your a masochist...

"If you're always looking behind you, you are going to fall down." My mom used to say that to me all the time.  Although, she was being literal 'cause I was a clumsy child.  The point is, if you're still playing in your past you can't give your energy to your future. If the past was really that great, it'd be the present. It's not. It's remarkably easy to remember the best parts of a relationship and completely forget the nights you spent crying yourself to sleep with a black-eye, or whatnot.  But the minute you forget that pain, you set yourself up to relive it.

Remember the first time you touched a hot stove? Yea... you don't do that anymore. Same story.